Dr Julie | Psychologist

💥This hits hard 👉How do you feel when someone in your life says one thing but does another? Sometimes it can cause us to doubt ourselves because we want so much to believe in the words they say. But when there is a disconnect between words and actions I tend to believe that the behaviour carries more weight. Despite this I do believe that we should always assume positive intent and not rush to judge someone’s actions as malicious until we know more. As soon as we interpret a situation in that way, we are already disconnected and less likely to be able to approach them in a way that will help us fully understand intent. I’d love to hear what you guys think on this one, from your own experience. 👉 For more on this check out my new book ‘Open When...’ It was an instant No.1 Sunday Times and New York Times bestseller. Available for -48% discount see link in bio. Also check out my million copy bestselling 1st book ‘Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before?’ Up to 60% off right now. Both are available across the world in over 40 languages. If you don’t want to read it and would like me to read it to you, it’s free when you sign up to Audible. Both links in my bio. If you brought a copy of either of my books thank you for the support 🙏

⏳ You need to know this about high functioning depression: The term itself is not a clinical diagnosis, but a term that has been used online to describe the experience of those who live with depressive symptoms and struggle to function but don’t cease to function. • This term is pretty useful as many people have a pre-conceived idea that good mental health is all about whether you can still get to work or not. They often feel undeserving of any support because they are not outwardly at rock bottom. • If you take one thing away from this video, let it be that the best time to start doing the right things for your mental health is the moment you think you could benefit from it. • Don’t wait until your mental health prevents you from functioning. That is a much longer and harder journey back. Feel free to share @drjulie ❤️ 👉For more insights check out my new book ‘Open When...’ It was an instant No.1 Sunday Times and New York Times bestseller. Available for -48% discount see link in bio. Also check out my million copy bestselling 1st book ‘Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before?’ Up to 60% off right now. Both are available in across the world in over 35 languages in audio and ebook. Both links in my bio.

👉 A woman’s mental health is never more vulnerable than in the first year after she has given birth. If you have noticed your wellbeing fluctuating since having a baby, I have a message for you. It’s not your fault. Having a baby has never been easy but our modern world, with all of it’s advantages that make life easier, seems to get this one so wrong. And both Mothers, Fathers and babies pay the price. The reason that mental health is so at risk during this time is because the core pillars of defense are all knocked out from beneath you. Some of those we can’t control, like sleep. Others we could use to help ourselves stay well, like social connection, nutrition and movement. But for anyone living in a place where community no longer exists, and Surestart centres or groups have been shut down, trying to look after your mental health alone, at the time when you need support more than ever, can feel overwhelming. We must do better for families. Feel free to share this message / video ❤️ 👉 For anyone who needs a helping hand through those often dark and lonely moments check out my New York Times / Sunday Times bestselling book ‘Open When...’ it is finally out now worldwide (link in bio) Also check out my million copy bestselling 1st book ‘Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before?’ Both are available across the world in over 35 languages x

👉Don’t make this mistake 🐸 We tend to adjust and tolerate harmful changes if they are gradual and subtle enough. Where in your life have you put up with gradual deterioration until it’s too late? 🔥The use of the blow torch in this video might seem a bit shocking. But it is there to represent how harshly the heat can be turned up once we are trapped in a situation by our tendency to adjust rather than address problems. We might become broken down or weakened by the ever increasing toxicity of a situation. So, whether it’s a workplace, a relationship, a personal situation or a wider problem of town or country, the boiling frog metaphor speaks volumes about the potential consequences of not addressing small changes until it’s too late. Note: The boiling frog metaphor came from an experiment that was done over 150 years ago. The original theory has since been contested by modern biologists. But the value in the fable remains. Feel free to share this message / video @drjulie ❤️ If you enjoy my videos you’ll love my New York Times / Sunday Times bestselling book ‘Open When...’ it is finally out now worldwide (link in bio) Also check out my million copy bestselling 1st book ‘Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before?’ Both are available across the world in over 35 languages.

👉 Important tip - So many people assume that when they feel anxious they are not progressing. But when you have willingly taken action to step into a feared situation that stands between you and your desired future, give yourself credit for pushing in the right direction. Of course it is OK to take breaks from this and replenish along the way. Facing your fear will be exhausting as your body is working hard to produce that stress response. So, spend time in your comfort zone but keep the exposure to your fears both frequent and regular in order to see results. For anyone who has severe and enduring anxiety or associated mental health problems and unsafe coping strategies then seek professional help with this before you get started. Feel free to share ❤️ 👉 For more on this subject check out my new book ‘Open When...’ It was an instant No.1 Sunday Times and New York Times bestseller. Available for -48% discount see link in bio. Also for more on the subject of anxiety check out my million copy bestselling 1st book ‘Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before?’ Both are available across the world in over 40 languages. If you don’t want to read it and would like me to read it to you, it’s free when you sign up to Audible. Both links in my bio. If you brought a copy of either of my books thank you for the support 🙏

👀 Did you spot the shift? 👉 It’s easy to miss it at first, because it is so gradual. But that is how change in emotion state tends to happen too. It’s not the flip of a coin. It’s a gradual shifting that takes time. The trouble with that is we become impatient when the feeling is uncomfortable or painful. We want it gone now. So, the temptation is to do whatever numbs it fast. Every time we do that, we lose touch with the natural course that human emotion will take, when we allow it to be present. It increases in It’s intensity, then slowly comes back down. 👉 ‘When it’s difficult to be with your feelings’ is the title of a whole section of my new No.1 Sunday Times & New York Times Bestseller, Open When. It breaks down into all the emotions we tend to struggle with, and I talk you through how to get through and out the otherside in the best way possible. If you comment the word ‘book’ I will DM you the links to some amazing discounted prices. The link in my bio has links to UK, USA and some international retailers. When I wrote this book I wanted it to be a gift to yourself through hard times, but also to the people you love, when you can’t be there to see them through their own tough moments ❤️

🔥 The last is the key! 👉 Ever felt like your reality was being twisted? Most likely, we have all felt that on occasion. Gaslighting in relationships is more common than you think. But once in a while does not have quite the same corrosive impact of the repeated cycle can alter the entire dynamic of a relationship over time. If this is happening to you persistently and you notice that you no longer trust in your own judgment, start writing things down. Keeping a journal of these interactions can help you begin to spot patterns in the relationship. Trusted friends or a therapist can be a lifeline of support that offers an outside perspective and the encouragement to find a way through. 👉 If you like my work you’re love my million copy bestseller, ‘Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before?’ And my New Sunday Times & New York Times bestseller, ‘Open When…’ please see the link in my bio where you can order both x